Congrats to ya B

I just got married last month myself, and my habits are just the same, since my wife likes 'my' music as it is anyway. There are only two things that have elicited a response....Phillip Glass' opera SATYAGRAHA(she calls his minimalistic whirlwinds 'messy music') and some of Morricone's 60's pop work. No bans yet though!

It is harder to focus on music when attatched to someone,since they tend to need more attention than music asks for. The hard part for me is balancing volume....we always have some score or music on in the car,at home, but finding the right volume so we can still talk and I can hear the stereo is hard sometimes. I guess you get used to it!

I wish I had more answers for you, but it depends on what the other half wants to hear(in my case, she doesn't listen to anything, and is happy with my stuff) and how much room you have to spread out(we also have a small one bedroom apt for now).

Cool thread though, I'll be curious to see what others think!

NP:Ivanhoe(Rozsa)
Sean

We both have seperate stereos although his never gets used audio-wise since he works long hours. He prefers to watch TV which I limit myself, since there's so much garbage about these days.

We have just moved into a new apartment and the guest bedroom has become my study where I also listen to music. Some months ago I posted a thread asking "What would your response be?"...when asked to stop collecting. Yes the person I passed off as my housemate is actually my partner. The reason I did this was because I didn't want lots of responses telling me to dump him...although some people did that anyway.

That time was the only time scores became an issue since we faced living in a smaller space. I have not stopped collecting but, on my own terms, decided to be more selective since trading is so completely addictive and I have so many scores I never really listen to. The issue has never been raised again...although he does remind me that we need yet another CD rack to accomodate the few hundred scores on the floor.

With reference to the car stereo...we share 3 discs each in the cartridge. With this in mind, I tend to make compilations of my fave music. I never feel self-conscious at all when playing scores because I know it doesn't bother him.

Perhaps the only time it did bother him was when he owned a very hoony car which was turbo charged and had wheels to break a bank account. It was loud and gutsy. It was awful. Anyway, I used to play scores and intitally I think he found it disconcerting to drive around in this testosterone vehicle while listening to Mozart-esque type music. It was an interesting contrast I can tell you.

That car is now history and I've managed to refine him a little...:-)

There was one girlfriend I didn't live with who thought film music was "cool" as we started to go out together and said "I'm not into that stuff" as things broke down between us.

A married friend of mine who has kids moved his collection of CDs and LPs down into his basement so the kids couldn't mess with them, but also I think so he could get away from everyone and listen to music. He says he can't go there too often though because duty calls. I don't think he ever told me whether his wife likes what he plays or not. But, like me, he's into a great deal of different sounds--jazz, rock, classical, opera, etc.--that I'm sure he has something to play that she'll like.

I guess the worst stories are ones like the guy who owned a huge collection of soundtracks and his fiancee told him, the LPs go or I do, and he actually dumped the collection!

she didn't last long.

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Originally posted by Lou Goldberg:
I guess the worst stories are ones like the guy who owned a huge collection of soundtracks and his fiancee told him, the LPs go or I do, and he actually dumped the collection!

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I don't know what's more sad, giving up one's collection to be with a loved one, or the fact there are people who would have chosen the collection instead!

Oh well, I am not attached. And from the looks of it, I will be for quite awhile to come. If the story above is true, I am not so worried anymore!

Seriously, my first attempt at marriage met with mixed results when it came to soundtracks. She was mostly a country & western fan with a little classical mixed in. She loved Batman but didn't like Aliens because it just sounded like "noise" to her. At that time CDs were just beginning to hit the market and my finances were required elswhere so my collection was mostly Williams.

Now its one thing to get your partner to put the toilet seat down but a completely different ball game when putting a halt to ones artistic tastes. You don't have to like it only accept it.

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Originally posted by Lou Goldberg:
Sabbey--I think the point is that if someone makes that kind of request of you, they don't really love you or will be too demanding to be compatible with. So really, it's not sad that someone picks the collection over the lover because chances are down the road that the married guy who gave up his collection will be divorced AND have no records.

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I don't know! There are certain things even CD/Record's can't do, that a loved might just excel at. Let's just leave it at that!

Seriously though...

Of course! Just me adding what I thought was a bit of humor! Really, I can't understand how anyone could make such a request. I'd think, if this was such a problem, they would have made mention of it long before that point.

Really though! I agree with all of what you say (except the part about having a tiny penis, I have no idea how that would be.) I think all of us have the ability to be selfish at times in our lives, I guess it counts on just how much. Oh well, I myself have been known to be at times. But, in a circumstance such as this?! It would certainly have pissed me off. Love is sometimes fickle, at other times great. I just hope the bitchiness doesn't rear it's ugly face too often.

Regards,
Sean Robert Abbey

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Oh, it's just Phillip Glass.

Having said my partner supports my score listening habits - he recently declared how much he hates 'The Ludlows' from 'Legends of the Fall'. So much in fact, he asked me to stop playing it.

His reason? He says its too depressing and should be called 'Suicidals about to Fall'

John - I don't find it boring or depressing at all. I actually prefer music with sorrowful/meloncholic tones but it doesn't get me down. I find it quite beautiful.